The Relationship Video Library

A New Perspective On Intimate Relationship

To be in a relationship is to enter into a dynamic that will show up every facet of our being. Each part of us comes under the microscope and what is revealed is not always easy to acknowlege, yet alone accept. In a healthy relationship our partner will expose not just our positive qualities, but also our negative ones - the ones we have not yet recognized or owned. Often, this leads to confrontation and typical reactions - we ignore, disagree, fight, blame or even leave.

We tend to fixate on analyzing and blaming the person we are with and have neither the inclination, the tools nor the awareness to look at ourselves and find out where the root of the situation really lies. Our behavior is so unconscious and conditioned that we believe this is who we really are, and so naturally we take up a defensive position.

Entering into the fire of relationship requires awareness. Through awareness of our own habitual patterns, we can see more clearly the root of most issues before the emotional intensity kicks in. Through understanding, we can see disagreements from a different perspective and instead of blaming or running, we can stay and grow.

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